Our words are powerful. For example:
- When we say, “I am so busy,” there’s a rush of adrenaline that runs through us, as our bodies prepare to go to battle to accomplish all we need to get done.
- When we say, “I am doing great; I can handle everything on my plate.” Our bodies begin to relax. We feel confident as we go about our day.
It’s all about perspective. If you believe there’s enough time to get it all done, you’ll find the time. You will prioritize what’s most important, and gain clarity about what to do first. You can then see what is possible.
We can’t always choose what life throws at us, but we do get to decide how we react to those situations. For me, my A-ha moment came when I realized that I was using “victim” words often. I found myself saying things like I “have to” call my Sister; I “have to” exercise; I “have to” have lunch with a friend today. Each of those was a choice instead. I could choose to do those things, or not. When I began to change the words I used to “choose to” instead of “have to,” I felt a renewed sense of peace and contentment.
For several years, I’ve been showing my clients the power of those “victim words” like have to; need to; should; or can’t, rather than dreading it. The way we characterize something can change the way we feel about it.
For just one week, try to be aware of when you’re using victim words, and make a conscious choice to change them when you can. You will feel more in charge of your life, and less like your life is happening to you.