I will turn 60 on September 7. That is a milestone – a chance to take stock of the life you have lived and look ahead and ask – What now? This is better than the first day of school when you got to decide how you wanted to show up in whatever grade you were in. There isn’t fear at 60 that you won’t be good enough or that you will fail. But there is a need for me to make conscious choices of what I want more of and what I want less of. I am just starting this excavation and will keep you posted as I figure this out for me. We design our lives. I know this is true. I can do more of the same, or I can create a new normal.
What immediately comes up for me is a need for health and connection. These are what really matters to all of us. My health drives all the rest – work, life, satisfaction, and enjoyment. To be healthy in body, mind, and spirit is my intention. I also know it is not selfish to focus on me – it is necessary and the next right thing to do. Connection is spending time with those people that matter: my family, friends and business associates.
What I need less of is busy work; the need to compete; the need to impress and the need to beat myself up.
I have lived with that voice – the “you are not good enough” voice. At 60, I know I am better than okay. I am great and real and talented and generous. I accept those parts of me too.
So, what does this mean to you? You don’t have to wait until you are 60 to start to ask yourself these questions.
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Email me back with what matters to you now? What are your top priorities? Are you living your life with those in mind? Where do you get stuck?
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