Finding Happiness with One on One Coaching
Four years ago, I was happy, blessed and felt guilty if I ever dared admit that I wasn’t satisfied. I was stuck, but I couldn’t even say it out loud. I knew something had to shift.
I decided to give coaching a try and hired a personal growth coach. Through the coaching process, I admitted to my coach that I was coasting – not living my life full out. Together, we examined my vision (I did not have one before that), my goals, and my gifts. I felt inspired and ready to dig a little deeper.
Next, we started the more challenging part – making changes and taking action! Change can be scary. Sometimes it’s more comfortable to stay where we are than to step out into something new. I would take two steps forward, and then fear would step in, and I would fall back. My inner critic, which says, “You are not good enough” spoke up loudly when I would try something new. That critic was trying to keep me safe – to keep me from failing. I realized I needed to fall and get back up. Now that voice is still there, but it whispers. I can choose to listen or not. I prefer to listen to my wisest self – my intuition. That voice within us that’s always moving us toward our best life.
Fast forward four years, I am now a personal growth coach and a full-time personal development speaker and trainer. I have chosen to fill my life with people and work that lift me up. Today, I did a yoga class, went to Starbucks and took an online course I’ve been putting off. In the grocery style aisle, I suddenly realized – I am there! I am happy and fulfilled, and while I haven’t wholly accomplished my vision, I can see the path to get there.
I do give my coach a lot of credit for pushing me, for making me question the status quo and for forcing me to speak up about what I wanted in my life. I also give myself credit for doing the hard work that it took to uncover the answers to all of those questions.
As a personal growth coach myself now, I get to work with people who are successful, smart and kind; People who want to make a change, even if they don’t know what that is. I had someone say to me recently, “I thought you had to have it all together to work with a coach; had to know what you were going to work on.” I told her that part of the work is uncovering what we would work on together.
Coaching is powerful. There are just no two ways about it. I am not powerful – my clients are. I don’t create success – my clients do.
So, today I am aware that I am living the dream that I shared all those years ago. A dream where I had space and freedom and choice. I have all of those things.