I am not ok. I don’t have it all together. I need help sometimes. We have been taught that vulnerability is a sign of weakness — and that showing weakness is a bad thing. Is it? Do you think less of a friend that shows up and is honest about what’s really going on? I’ll bet that instead, you lean in to help. I know I would. I’ve been blessed with four best buds. They love me, listen to me, and offer me guidance, advice,… Read More »When It’s Okay, to Not Be Okay
Do you know the answer to that question? I ask myself that every morning in my quiet time. It is such a simple question and my answers are usually the same – I need to get that project finished; I need to buy milk; I need to exercise; I need to talk to a friend; I need to read a book for fun. We make lists and we take courses – hell, I even teach some on how to make lists and get it all… Read More »What do I need?
Clutter. All the mental and physical stuff that invades and fills up our drawers, closets, inboxes, desks and all the stuff in our heads. Clutter is spiritually heavy. It is the result of a postponed decision. “I don’t know what to do with that,” so I will keep it, file it or store it. With the new TV show from Marie Kondo – the author of the bestseller, “The Magic of Tidying Up”, many of us have been on this band wagon for a while. … Read More »What to Do with All the Stuff?
“That’s what I call bouncing,” said Eeyore. “Taking people by surprise. Very unpleasant habit. I don’t mind Tigger being in the Forest,” he went on, “because it’s a large Forest, and there’s plenty of room to bounce in it. But I don’t see why he should come into my little corner of it, and bounce there. It isn’t as if there was anything very wonderful about my little corner. Of course for people who like cold, wet, ugly bits it is something rather special, but… Read More »Tigger and Eeyore
I’ve been researching time management and productivity for years. I have taken courses and given speeches. I am supposed to be a productivity expert, and yet, even though I know the ‘right’ way to do things, I revert back to my old ways – particularly when I am stressed. For instance, I start checking my inbox first – I give away my power and time to every one of those emails making what they want from me more important than my priorities. Tip #1: Make your… Read More »To Get More Done, Eat the Frog First
Speaking your truth even when your voice trembles. Years ago a friend of mine gave me this quote on a cocktail napkin when I was going through a very difficult time. I kept it for years. I loved both the simplicity of this quote and the magnitude of it as well. Many of us talk ourselves out of speaking up. We tell ourselves, “It is not the right time; it doesn’t matter anyway; even if I say something nothing will change.” Whatever it is we tell… Read More »Speak Your Truth
The definition of the word clarity is ‘the quality of being clear.’ In my one on one coaching practice, I find that clarity is the missing piece for most of my clients. They don’t know what they want; They have not thought about it. What is in front of them is what they have, and taking the time to dream or envision their lives is not something they spend much time on. I heard someone say that we all have a default future or a… Read More »Clarity – the Missing Piece
For many of my clients, balance is an issue. By “balance,” I’m talking about the ability to get everything done at work, so you don’t have to think about it when you get home. There will always be big projects and unmet deadlines that keep us up at night, but learning how to create some balance is possible. The best way to achieve this happy medium is through focus. It’s so simple, but we like to make things complicated. Through concentration, we can accomplish both… Read More »Focus – The Key to a Well-Balanced Life
Are you Lazy? Is that bad? When I was a child, my Mother told me I was lazy. I know she had enough evidence to support her claim, yet I’m also sure her intent was not to hurt me, or for that message to stay with me into adulthood — but, it did. Now, when I want to just lay on the couch and watch TV in my pajamas – I feel too anxious to enjoy it. It would be lazy and I am not lazy. I’ve considered… Read More »Choose to Be Lazy – Even if You Were Told Not To
Our words are powerful. For example: When we say, “I am so busy,” there’s a rush of adrenaline that runs through us, as our bodies prepare to go to battle to accomplish all we need to get done. When we say, “I am doing great; I can handle everything on my plate.” Our bodies begin to relax. We feel confident as we go about our day. It’s all about perspective. If you believe there’s enough time to get it all done, you’ll find the time.… Read More »Perspective is a Choice